When was the last time you really thought about who you are?

Not just the labels that you carry day to day; mom, sister, employee, wife, friend.

But who you REALLY are.

The past few years have had many of us in survival mode. With day-to-day life-changing and for many quite dramatically, most of us have found ourselves just trying to get by each day. Go to work, kids at school, keep everyone healthy, and repeat.

I have heard many say they feel like they have been in a fog. Just going through the motions. Just doing what they have to.

And for many, it has been hard. Really hard.

We are tired, we’ve been stressed, depressed, and anxious, and all the emotions are less than great.

But what if we could start to change that?

What if we could reset?

But how do we do that, especially when things have been so foggy for so long now?

Get Back to Basics

Remember being a kid?

When we didn’t overthink everything and have a million different scenarios to consider or decisions to make.

When sometimes we were led more by what we just knew we wanted and went for it.

So how do we get back to identifying who we are?

Let’s start by asking ourselves some questions.

What do you love?

When you think of what or who means the most to you, what makes you smile, brings a feeling of excitement, hope, and joy. What eases your anxiety? Makes you forget about the doom and gloom of the world?

When we acknowledge what we love, and what brings us good emotions, we identify more with our subconscious. Who are we at our core? Who we truly are and not who we may feel like or even have become because of all the outside influences in the world. Because of a bad day or even a few years of them.

For example; think of a day when things just didn’t go right from the moment you got out of bed. Maybe you did not get enough sleep. You go on your fav social media and see posts about how mad someone is about something. You then hear an upsetting news story, maybe it impacts you directly maybe it just makes you mad or sad. Next thing you know you have a not-so-great encounter with someone, maybe a stranger, someone you encounter at work, maybe it’s even a “friend” and by the end of the day your world is full of all the negative thoughts and feelings that consumed your day.

It’s important to know that after this kind of day we may not be ourselves, we most likely will not be ourselves and that is ok. But what is more important is to get back to who we are. To not allow what we may not always be able to control to change who we really are.

And let’s be honest, throughout these past few years more than ever we have been impacted by so much out of our control.

In order for us to be able to reset and get back to who we are we have to know how to do that.

Who Are You?

One way we can do this is by remembering who we really are. This can be easier said than done though when so much of our day is just spent trying to get through it and get ALL of the things done.

The great news is… it’s possible and can even be easier than we think!

Below are some prompts to get you started thinking about what you love. Answer these from your heart (I mean it is about love after all) and do not overthink but give yourself time to answer honestly.

What brings you a smile as soon as you think of the answer to the questions below?

Out of all of these questions which one was the hardest for you to answer?

“Something you love about yourself”?

Thought so.

It’s usually the one we struggle with the most. It’s easy for us to think of others or how we respond to situations but it’s hard for us to just think of ourselves. It’s hard for us to put ourselves first, to take care of ourselves, to care about or love ourselves.

Take this list, write down your answers… yes even the one to the last question, no matter how long it takes you… and look at the answers again in a few days. How did you answer all of the other questions about what you love? What brings you the most joy and happiness.

Those answers are WHO you are, who you really are.